The internet is a place where one can freely speak whatever they want. But how free should it be? You can easily type up horrible things about a person and it probably won't affect you. But you know what? This is wrong. Very wrong.
Why do I say this you may ask? Well...
I took part of cyberbullying. And I know, there will be lots of people looking down at me for this, but I will bravely stand here and say the truth.
Now, I didn't necessarily troll or drew something that's downright terrible, but I did gossip. I gossiped around someone's back, and picked on them for being different. My friends and I thought that by picking on one person, it would be funny or "cool".
But do you know how wrong this truly is? This is VERY wrong. It does NOT make you cool or funny. This is a subject that's something serious and cruel and should not be taken halfheartedly.
Everyone is a human. We all have feelings, even though we refuse to admit it deep inside. And when we make fun of a person, they feel emotionally hurt.
First of all, we didn't even know the full story of the person we were picking on. How do you know if they actually have real life problems that may perhaps lead to suicide?
Second, how can we automatically assume that the person that's being picked on is actually mean themselves? Maybe they act mean because they can't help themselves, perhaps because of family or relationship problems.
Third, what do we gain after bullying? We gain absolutely nothing. Instead, we get more agony from people who are actually hurt by the impulsive, rude messages that is sent to the victim.
And how do you think the victim feels? That's right, you have no idea how the victim feels. So what's the point of adding this drama that would result to nothing? This is what I question myself when I cyberbullied with my friends.
I regretted everything I've done and I wish I would have never done it. It's sick to think that one is actually laughing at a person who is emotionally in pain. And this is why, I'm telling you not to follow my footsteps. Don't make the internet more cruel than it should be.
Think before you send. Just think: Is it worth it?
Because truthfully, it isn't worth it at all. If you have friends, then you should stay happy with them. If you're upset with somebody, then keep it to yourself. There is no need to gossip and do many horrible things to them for no reason.
In addition, some of you asked if I trolled a person by using a troll account. My answer is no, I didn't. However, I still take part of the blame. I should have stopped my friends when I had the chance, but I didn't. Instead, I just watched and did nothing besides mockery.
And this is not right, nor will it ever be.
And finally, I am very VERY sorry. To the person who I cyberbullied, I am also very very sorry. I will do anything to prevent this from happening again. I am also sorry I had to block you temporarily, because just like any human would feel like, I am afraid to see any more of this. I can't believe this is what you've been through... The pain, the despair you've been through...
All because of cyberbullying, and for the people like myself who didn't think before sending.
I should have respected your feelings, but instead I was a bully and made the drama worse. And this, this makes me very ashamed of myself. I am extremely flawed in many ways, I know. I don't expect you to forgive me, but I want to tell you that I'm sorry for everything.
You didn't deserve having such negative remarks on your page. We all deserve to be respected towards one and other, not bickering.
I promise by my soul that I will never EVER do cyberbullying again. I will tell my friends to stop the bullying as well.
Again, I am deeply sorry for this mishap, and it will never happen again. I promise.
I've been bullied practically all through my life, and maybe at times I was one who provoked it to happen, but it's still not right to do so. Both bullying and cyberbulling aren't worth the time wasting so much negative energy and people really need to understand the consequences of their actions. I should know since I had to learn that the hard way.
Ether way, thank you so much for saying this.
I hope you don't mind that I shared this on Tumblr and Twitter.
I think as unperfect human beings, everyone can relate as being the bully and the bullied. We feel self-conscience of our own down-falls and feel the need to bring others down with us. Or simply think that words are just words and have no impact on the people we cut deeply with insults as sharp as knifes. Very few acknowledge the fact that they have done a wrong to someone and try to mask it with "They had it coming" or "They deserved it" But in reality, bullying is just a form of taking off your own insecurities and dumping them on others. Even if what you said were true, how would they take the insult? Hardly anyone asks themselves that and when they soon realize what they had done. It's too late, you said what you said and can't go back and change it.
Koda-Soda, It takes guts to say the things you've said on the internet. Where if someone wanted to, could type all the mean junk about you and lose a fan. I enjoy your work but most importantly. I like how you carry yourself, honestly and humble. And don't try to act as if you could do no wrong because if anyone tried to get away saying that. They would be lying! Honestly, if I were the person you bullied and after what you wrote on here. I would forgive you, no doubt.
I can honestly say myself that I've been a victim and bully in the past. Being either or aren't fun and it's very painful in the end when you realize what you did as a bully was wrong. Some days I wish I could try to make amends with those I hurt and apologize. I really learned my lesson when I found out one of my high school friends from my sophomore (after I had stopped bullying in middle school and attended high school) killed themselves due to being bullied. That kind of news was depressing and I helped the schools out with their anti-bullying programs to ensure no one would be cyberbullied or bullied/harassed. You are surprisingly enough one of the few people to admit what you did was wrong and that have learned from that mistake. And I honestly wouldn't be ashamed of you for admitting it.
Koda remember when you told me by note that I had the guts to tell you what i have done? well... it seems you have guts just like me to tell people what you have done. Sis no matter what you become, even if u became a bully, i will always love ya, i will always support you even if u changed into a entirely different person. I will say this as well, just like the kids that was bullied to the point of death, I was also thinking of suicide as well until my friends, my family, my DA and my Skype friends saved me from it... yes even you Koda.
As they say, what's done is done. If you're sorry that's all that matters to me, for one.
I hope the person you bullied will feel a little better reading your message and make a good emotional recovery.
All of us has flaws, all of us needs to see them, and when we do; we need to come to terms with them and then fix them, you have admitted your flaws...again, my hat to you good sir.
I hope that bully realizes that it's wrong. Thank you so much for commenting here... you're such a wonderful person to try and help that person, regardless.
I believe that there's always hope in this world, that we all realize our mistakes and forgive each other. Thank you again, thank you so much ;A;
I'm glad, however. Writing this makes me feel relieved somehow, because the bullying truly does need to stop. Thank you again